But Nora Does It, Why Can't I?

There seems to be a new trend—OK, it’s always been there—towards untested authors (mostly, unpublished, but some newly published) trying to break the “rules” of writing romance, and when he or she is called on it, the pat answer goes something like: “but Nora [Roberts] does it,” or “but Stephen [King] does it.” Well, folks, that may be true, but unless you are Nora or Stephen…or one fantastic phenom…don’t do it.

Experienced, multi-published authors often tell a newer authors, “You have to know the rules before you can break them.” This is great advice, but oft times, not well-received advice, and I think I know why. Aspiring authors are told to study the authors they like—successful authors who have a quality the new author would like to develop. So Ms. Aspiring Author reads, reads, reads. She’s been told that secondary characters shouldn’t have a point of view. She's been told that it’s customary in a romance for the hero and heroine to meet as early in the story as possible. etc. And then she reads her favourite author whose current hero isn’t introduced until page twenty-six. Now Ms A.Author thinks, “Well, I guess that’s a rule that's OK to break.” BUT, Ms. Aspiring is focusing on the wrong point. She’s looking at the mechanics—the what—but she’s missing the why.

When learning to hone your craft, don’t just look at what is happening on the page, study why it’s happening. Don’t just see that a rule is being broken, discover why the break wasn’t obtrusive. I recently began to read a romance that was so engaging in its opening scene and pages—the prose, the plot progression, the introduction of the heroine's inner conflict—that I didn’t even realize until I was introduced to the hero (some sixteen pages in) that that was the first hint of hero or romance. This author broke a rule, but it was done with such style, and for good reason (The set-up was a necessary foundation) that it wasn’t obtrusive in the least.

So, as you are analyzing your plot, here are some things to think about:

  • First: Know the rules. Seriously. Know them. No Joke.
  • Second: If you are going to break the rules, know why you are breaking them.
  • Third: Once you’ve broken them, honestly ask yourself if it was necessary. If there is a viable way not to break the rules, don’t break them. And this is a place where you really have to be honest with yourself. Don’t break the rules simply because you can or because you want to. Those aren’t good enough reasons. Your plot, your hero, your heroine must demand those rule breaks.
  • Fourth: Break them well. Seek objective feedback. (Objective feedback does not come from your friends or family unless you know they will tell you the absolute truth if something you’ve written is terrible.) If you get negative feedback from your rule breaks, they didn’t work. Period. Don’t try to justify your reasons. When the rules are broken with finesse, it doesn’t bug a reader—OK, it may bug a small majority, but not most. Your reasons may be solid, but your execution may still need work. Go back to the drawing board, hone your craft, and try again.


  1. I cracked up when I read the title of this blog post. Sad to say, I've heard people say those exact words...a lot. The hero/heroine meeting early rule is the one that I find the hardest to swallow. But I try to remember that the reason the rule exists is because ultimately it's what the reader wants, it spells success.

    Blessings, Teri

    Teri Wilson ~ Romancing the pet lover's soul


  2. Hey Teri,

    I'd probably agree with you that the H/H meeting early is the hardest one. It's also probably the one that's the easiest to break and get away with--if it's done well. The problem I see most of the time when this rule is broken is there's no relationship or conflict development being built in the meantime. Most of the time, I see backstory in place of plot, relationship or conflict building.

    In the story I mention in the post, there was none of that. We were firmly in-the-now and so enthralled with what was happening that *when* the characters were introduced took a firm back-seat.

  3. Thanks, Delia!...folks, look for Delia's book, Yesterday's Promise, coming soon. It features some wonderful characters, and a very unique take on a tried and successful secret baby theme.